Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave Himself for it Ephesians 5:22, 25.
Marriage partners are called to live together in harmony. Some of the qualities that are essential to building a harmonious and successful marriage include unconditional love, acceptance, compromise, communication, and commitment. However. a marriage is a union of two separate persons, and the character and maturity of the two marriage partners will determine how harmonious their union will be.
In other words, before anyone can become a good marriage partner, he or she must first work on becoming the best person he or she can be. It’s very difficult for two people to live together in harmony when either or both partners are “off-key”. Therefore, it’s important for each partner to “tune up” his or her own life as a first step to building a successful marriage. Tuning up your life may involve making some personal changes that will allow you to better harmonize with your mate. A willingness to examine yourself, your motives, desires, and methods of achieving your desire and to then make adjustments where it’s needed is an important part of “tuning up” your life.
Achieving harmony in marriage also involves husbands and wives spending time together. It’s impossible to establish and maintain a good marriage relationship if one or both partners are away at a job all day, and then are involved in some activities, including church activities nearly every night of the week. Then there’s no energy or time left for strengthening and solidifying the marriage. Marriage is togetherness, together a husband and wife make decisions concerning jobs, finances, raising children, and a host of other issues. A husband and a wife get to know and understand one another by spending time together. Spending time together also allows a couple to grow together, a couple that doesn’t grow together, will soon begin to grow apart.
Marriage is a similar to the relationship we have with the Father. In order to get to know the Father, we must not allow ourselves to get too busy until we don’t have the time or the energy to spend with Him in prayer, reading His word as well as just holding a conversation with Him. When we spend time with the Father we grow in knowledge, understanding, revelation of the things of God. We will begin to know His will as well as His word. When we don’t spend adequate time with the Father, we grow apart, we will begin to desire more of what the world has to offer than what God has to offer.
God’s desire for marriage is for it to be successful and in harmony, the same way He desire our relationship to be with Him to be successful and in harmony. As believers God wants our affection, adoration, commitment, and dedication. When our relationship is in harmony with God, He will make our marriage with our partner harmonious.