The desire of a man is his kindness: and a poor man is better than a liar (Proverbs 19:22)
Kindness is always appropriate at all times. What’s in the heart will manifest in our character and behavior. What makes a person attractive is not their outer appearance, but what comes from the heart.
There is a limit to what we can do with our outward appearance, but we can always develop our character and disposition. We may not be able to do anything to improve our looks, but we can always take steps to improve our character. We should take the position of how we desire people to treat us, then it would be easier to treat people the way they should be treated.